“Many things grow the silence in us,…….

“Many things grow the silence in us, among them simply growing older. We may then become more a refuge than a rescuer, a witness to the process of life and the wisdom of acceptance. Perhaps the most important thing we bring to another person is the silence in us.  Not the sort of silence that is filled with unspoken criticism or hard withdrawal.  The sort of silence that is a place of refuge, of rest, of acceptance of someone as they are.  We are all hungry for this other silence.  It is hard to find.  In its presence we can remember something beyond the moment, a strength on which to build a life.  Silence is a place of great power and healing.  Silence is God’s lap.” ~ From: My Grandfather’s Blessings: Stories of Strength, Refuge, and Belonging, by Rachel Naomi Remen MD

Last night I was searching for a quote for a friend who was grieving. As I searched the web I stumbled upon this wonderful passage from the book My Grandfather’s Blessings by Rachel Naomi Remen. The author of Kitchen Wisdom, a book I loved to turn to when I was younger for solace  and wisdom. This passage touched my heart and gave me the answer to how I can help myself and others in a time of sadness and loss. It speaks to the wisdom that comes with age

“Taking refuge does not mean hiding from life.  It means finding a place of strength, the capacity to live the life we have been given with greater courage and sometimes even with gratitude.” ~ Rachel Naomi Remen MD